HARASSMENT IS NOT NEGOTIABLE.
To wit:
When you get a valid harassment complaint--and while investigation is always a good idea, so is starting with the assumption that said complaint is valid--you go to the person responsible, who I will hereafter call Gray Icky Thing...
You say: "Icky Thing, we've received reports that you're harassing people," or whatever. You say "We want you to stay away from Bob/Jane/freshman girls in the future."
Some of you, I hear, consider the following alternative: "Hey, Gray, what will make you stop harassing people?"
To you I say: NO. DO NOT SAY THIS. NEVER SAY THIS. THERE IS NOT ENOUGH CAPSLOCK IN THE WORLD FOR ME TO TELL YOU HOW WRONG YOU ARE. SWEET GOD ON BUTTERED TOAST, THIS IS NOT OKAY.
Just go, read the whole thing. I'll wait.
Done? OK.
I've been in the position of having to be the club's bad guy and kick out someone who was holding the club (and club's mailing list) hostage with her Borderline Personality Disorder antics--she was gaslighting, and making a couple of people into her personal villains--her very own "black hats."
But some people thought that I was being "mean" for excluding this horrid person, who'd been sabotaging the club for several years. Finally, I'd had enough, and as one of the club's officers, I put my foot down. I wanted to get a printout of the Five Geek Social Fallacies and smack these people with it.
Because in actuality, the people we were being unfair to were the ones who'd felt too uncomfortable to participate in any of the group's activities as long as this one person was still in the group. So one person had been ruining it for a lot of others, and I'd eventually had enough.
So yeah. I'm an Evil Ostracizer. Whatever. Shut up.
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